Thanks for all the input on my dress and shoes! You were all very helpful. I should have mentioned that it is an afternoon wedding, and a second wedding for both, so it's fairly casual.
I've decided to go with the first dress, which I thought looked better and you all confirmed. I was able to find both shoe styles at Target in my size. I haven't made a final decision on that yet, but I think I'll probably go with the all black wedge.
One other issue was my very pale legs. I'm pale everywhere; I'm a redhead and have never had a tan in my life, though I've had plenty of burns. But somehow pale legs are just...the worst.
So here's my secret: Sally Hansen Airbrush Legs.
I the photo below, my right leg is au naturale, and my left leg has the Airbrush Legs.
(I am not wearing any make-up, and my hair is still damp, so ignore from the neck up.)
Granted, the difference is subtle (and I'm not sure how it shows up on your monitor), but a deep tan would look ridiculous on me. This gives me enough confidence to not be so self-conscious about my legs.
Airbrush Legs is a spray. You spray it on your palm, rub your hands together, then apply to your legs. It is instant leg make-up. You can see exactly what you're getting as you apply it. There is no waiting for it to develop, and it doesn't stink. After a couple of minutes you can get dressed. I've never had it come off on anything, and it stays on until you take it off with soap and water. I find it much easier to use than self-tanning creams.
It has some sparkle to it, which I actually kind of like, but according to the reviews it was a newer addition and was very unpopular. Apparently they are going back to the old, sparkle-free formula in September, which is fine with me too. It comes in several different shades to best match your skin tone. I've only used in on my legs, but some reviewers mentioned that they've used it on everything else too, with good results.
What do you think? Can you see the difference?